How to Do a Cord Cutting Ritual With Candles

2026-09-14 — Oracle Selene

Why a Cord Cutting Ritual Helps

Hello, I am Oracle Selene. For 15 years I have helped people let go. A cord cutting is not about hate. It is about freedom. When you feel tied to an ex, a friend, a boss, or a memory, that tie can feel like a rope around your chest. Candles make the release visible. Fire changes things. You do not need fancy tools. You need a little courage and a quiet hour.

What You Need Before You Start

Two candles. One for you. One for the other person or the situation. White candles work for most cases. Black candles help with heavy anger or grief. You also need a piece of string or thread. A fireproof dish helps. Find a quiet space. Give yourself 15 minutes. No phone. No interruptions. If you want, have a photo or a name on paper. That is all.

Step by Step: The Cord Cutting

First, set your space. Open a window. Light a little incense if you like. Say out loud what you are doing. 'I cut the cord between me and ___.' Be honest. If you are angry, say it. If you are sad, say it. The candle does not judge.

Second, carve the names. Use a pin or your fingernail. Put your name on one candle. Put their name on the other. If no name fits, write 'the past' or 'my fear.'

Third, anoint the candles. Olive oil works fine. Rub from bottom to top for your candle. Rub from top to bottom for theirs. That sends energy away from you.

Fourth, tie the string. Wrap one end around your candle. Wrap the other end around theirs. Leave a few inches between them. That string is the cord.

Fifth, light both candles. Watch the flames. They may flicker. They may fight. That is normal. Take a breath. Then say: 'I release you. I release me. This cord is cut. I am free.'

Sixth, cut the string. Use scissors or a knife. Cut it right in the middle. Do it with purpose. Not a tiny snip. A real cut. Then let the candles burn down. If you cannot stay, snuff them out and relight later. Never leave fire alone.

What to Do After

When the candles burn out, gather the wax. Wrap it in paper. Throw it away far from your home. Or bury it. Take a salt bath. Drink water. You may feel tired. You may cry. That is the release. Do not call them. Do not check their social media. The ritual is a door. You have to walk through.

A Few Honest Warnings

Do not do this to control someone. That backfires. Do not do it when you still want them back. Wait until you are ready to let go. And never leave candles unattended. I have seen curtains catch. I am serious.

Final Words From Oracle Selene

I have done this ritual hundreds of times for clients. It works if you work it. The candle is just a tool. Your will is the real magic. If you need help, find me. I am here. Blessed be.